some upates in March

I had started to work on the interviews on Hikikomori. The Lord had moved in such a way that my professor had given me a free hand to approach the question in a qualitative method, where it allows me to explore freely among nations. This is rather interesting, but a lot of work and critical thinking and careful approaches are needed. Since I am aiming to publish the paper at the end of research, please pray for wisdom and open doors, and determination.

The Lord had shown me a handful of contacts that have a heart for Japan. We will need to bring this back to the Lord and see what He had installed for us. If He had called us together, what are the things that He wants us to do at this moment is crucial. It should not be what I want, or how they could fit in to H4J ministry, but rather what God wants us to know and to do while channeling us together.

I wish to have a mentor, a teacher that could guide me through the whole journey. Thanks to some of you had actually write to me or call me to encourage me and share with me what God had been spoken to you, giving me ideas of strategies, and reminding me to put God first in all things that I do. Very helpful, thank you!!!

Drowning and Rescuer

There were 2 people who walked along the river. They saw people drowning in the river. They began to try their best efforts to pull out as many people they could, and resuscitate them. There was a huge amount of people that were being drowned. No matter how they tried, they just couldn't get everyone out of it. Even those who they had pulled out from the water suffered so much that they eventually died regardless the effort resuscitation. More people joined them in the effort of rescue. But everyone got so tired after sometime. Nothing could be done. The amount of energy that had been put in was sucked in like a dark swamp, nothing much could be see, really.

So they divided among themselves, starting to look at the strategies, methods, and time factors in rescuing one person. They began to access their effort in different ways. Some focused at the number of people that they pulled up. Some looked at the number of the actual survival. Some looked at the time spent in treating one drowner. Some looked at the effectiveness of the help that had been given. And some looked at the cost effectiveness of the strategies that were adopted. Slowly, they broke into teams to continue the rescue in different location of the bank.

After sometime, there were still huge amount of people were drowning. The survival rate was little while you draw a statistic to have a closer look of the effort. Then they divided among themselves again, pointing fingers on the attitudes, alertness and reflectiveness of the rescuers. Some became frustrated and then gave up the rescue effort and return home. Most were disappointed, whether they said it or not. They broke into smaller teams now, and then recruited more people who were similar likeness. Now there were rescue troops in more locations. Still, mot much changes.

One began to wonder, what was happening here? He went towards to the upstream of the river bank. To his surprise, at the upstream, there was a man standing there, keep pushing people down to the river. Then, he quickly rushed down the river, gathered a team, then they went up to the upstream of the river bank, and they stopped the man. Now, the lower stream was peaceful and quiet. The rescue team finally had a pleasure to sit down, and nursed the wounded drowners, tended to their needs, and had themselves rest.


I see the issue in Japan the same way.

希望

“我们所可以自慰的，想来想去，也还是所谓对于将来的希望。希望是附丽于存在的，有存在，便有希望，有希望，便是光明。如果历史家的话不是诳话，则世界上的事物可还没有因为黑暗而长存的先例。黑暗只能附丽于渐就灭亡的事物，一灭亡，黑暗也就一同灭亡了，它不永久。然而将来是永远要有的，并且总要光明起来；只要不做黑暗的附着物，为光明而灭亡，则我们一定有悠久的将来，而且一定是光明的将来。” ~ 魯迅

Prayers

Dear Lord,

I pray that your love will fill the hearts of my friends, Bonny, Nichole, Roy, Sophie, Helen, Lily, Silent, Seng Qi, Amy. Heal all wounded hearts, and pour out your oil of mercy and grace, to conceal thier sorrows, to provide strength, to reveal love and hope that is so special in you. Lord, may the spring of the fountain flows within them! May they gain life! In Jesus, Amen.

I pray that you use every piece of work that you had thrust your hand on, and grant them a harvest in Japan! Lord, may you intervene and in our agony, and bring forth restoration of hope and faith and love in the Church! May you strengthen the work that you had placed in our hands. May you make good use of the findings of Keikyo, Kakure Kirishitan, Endo Shusaku, God's Finger Prints, Japan Harvest, Operation Japan, Hipopo Ministry, Lifeline, and many more! May your workers join their hearts and strength together in ploughing your land, to pray for your Kingdom to come, but not slander or stumble by your work!

God, I pray that you will use Dr. Ozawa on his missions in Feb and March. I also pray that you will bless the lineup team which is working to prepare the way for the ship, I pray that the ship will be able to serve the countrysides, and bring forth corporation and promote understanding of the churches! I pray that hindrances to be removed, so that people could come, and common people, non-believer shall come, to taste the delight in serving, to taste the love of Christ, to expose themselves to the light of life!


Lord, I also pray that you use the ministry of Jimmy Hayashi, the ministry of Ps. Suzuki, the ministry of Matthias & Yoko, Rie, Kazue, Masayuki, Richard & Candy and Sam Pillay. These people minister in different places, send your workers to the field, O Lord! They need helpers, they need prayer partners, they need teams of workers that are devoted and faithful!

I also pray that you bless Reimer and Nobuko who are now retired from their mission field. Lord, be our provider! A provider that will never fail us, never cease, always cheerful, always encouraging, always uplifting!


Thank you, Lord! In Jesus, Amen.


Love,
Roseline

What do you believe?

Japan, a place where St. France Xavier had held so closely to his chest. "The country in the Orient most suited to Christianity." This remark had caused more and more missionaries flushed in to this land, despite the seemingly never ended persecutions. We once thought the missions had borne fruits while the missionary schools were permitted, and the churches were built. We once witnessed the most glorious sacrifice for Christ in the believers' endurance in suffering. 26 matyrs in Nagasaki, followed by thousands and thousands of death of the devoted.

Some went because of their devotions towards God, some went because of the reports from many missionaries who went, some went because they knew, they needed to see God.

Some people get drunk when they try to forget haunting memories, some people prefer to run away from it. Seldom, there will be people who dedicately work on it. What does Japan means to you? In her long suffering of flock without shepherd? Was it a pain failure, or was this a wasted land? Or maybe simply God just abandoned this land, this people, this nation?

Does the Hidden Christian (Kakure Kirishitan 隠れ切支丹) mean anything to you? Or it was simply a joke?

Do you believe that God had preserved this place? Do you see the efforts of the flock risking thier lives to pursue the truth, to seek dignity of humanity? Do you see a flock of sheep without shepherd? Do you see a field thirst for water?

WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE?

Hikikomori, Individualism and Christianity ?

I am reading this book, "Shutting Out The Sun", by Michael Zielenziger. I don't really agree with all that he says, but here is one interesting quotation from the book.

~~~While young Japanese glean superficial images of what they believe to be "individualism" from the Western movies and TV shows they watch, they don't grasp the deeper Western sense of individual responsibility that accompanies such freedom, Kawai told me. "Their appreciation of individualism remains quite shallow," he said. "In your country, individualism is at first really based on Christianity. Even though you do what you like, you never forget about your God. God is looking down, like an ego, judging you. But in Japan, there is no God but ie," and no one to judge but the group. "Westerner have a long history of becoming individuals, and you have established how to create relations with others. But we don't share that experience in Japan... I often think that our challenge now as Japanese is to come up with a new way to become individuals without relying on Christianity." ~~ the comment was made by Hayao Kawai (Clinical Psychologist) -pg 69-70.

Matthias thinks that individualism can as well lead to very ugly things (as seen as well in the west) and he doubts that people in the west these days have, generally speaking, a great sense of "god who is looking down"......

Joe O. thinks that "individualism" is more of a philosophy of the French Enlightenment or maybe Greek philosophy.

All these are interesting points. However, reading the comment of Kawai, I was excited somehow. Wouldn't people be curious to know more about Christianity rather than seeing it from afar in such shallowness? Why didn't Kawai think that the Japanese can rely on Christianity too? ......

I know this is hard...... It is difficult to tell the Japanese to embrace Christianity, when the believe prohibits them to Matsuri, shrines and temples that had been heavily as a part of their lives.

I pray that God will reveal to them the Good News! Pray for wisdom to those who are ploughing on His field. Pray that they will be able to speak life into their neighbours' hearts. Blessed are those who poor in spirit. Mat5:3

Be Still And Know

The CNY is approaching, perhaps there is still an urgency in many things. When there is urgency in my life, I either did a lot of things by my own strength, calculating all the possibilities, and working hard to avoid damages, trying my best to save the situation. Or I would be doing nothing, just waiting, listening to the Lord even He was very quiet about it, but I would just wait to see what He is going to do next. Often the latter came after the first action, where I became too tired and exhausted, and I knew I couldn't work things out by myself, there was just no way to
it.

Leaving things in God's hand is not going to be easy either. But when He said, "Be still and know that I am God." He means it.

~ : Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still. (Exodus 14:13-14)

My mom often likes to sing this song, "God will make a way, where it seems to be non way. He works in ways we cannot see, He will make a way for me. He will be my guide, hold me closely by His side. With love and strength for each new day, He will make a way, He will make a way. " Amen.

And often, I find resting in Him and see Him moves, is much fruitful and fulfilling that I hop on it myself before I see His hand.

Being offered a place in the student mansion

Great! We see miracle again! I was offered a place to stay in the student mansion next to my faculty in Sassoon Road. A place where I always dream of. The cost of living went down, and I will begin to mix with students. Most of all, I can start cooking again, and have more space to move around and pray! Amazing, wonderful grace!

Visiting Churches......

My move to visit the churches proved to be right. In January, I felt that the Lord was kicking my back to move out from ICA. I had been comfortably stayed in ICA for more than 3 months, it became a habit for me to worship in that church on Sunday. Somewhere deep inside me, I was still searching for a family, a spiritual place where I can feel belong, and grow.

Until the Lord showed me in the beginning of January, my family is in His FAMILY, and I don't really need to search for one, He has one for me! He had actually bought many nice people to my side, since beginning.

But as I was naive, hoping much to have a church where I can feel as home, and thought that's the only way to be, and then totally forgotten about my mission here to visit churches and meeting people. I was pretty tight with study, and visiting churches with a "complicating" identity is strange. It is pretty tough to answer the questions, such as, "Why are you here? You are praying for Japan? and you are here as a HKU student? Your church sent you? How do you pay?" I was tired, embarassed. Then, God brought me to ICA Cantonese service. He told me to stay, one month. Pretty good, I thought. I had a shelther. The worship songs were familiar, the youths took me in warmly, the elderly people were kind, the pastor was energitic, and there was a girl, who like Japan a lot. After one month, I stayed on. In December, I found that it had become a habit to move my legs to that direction of the church on Sunday.

January, I was very depressed. I didn't really see people who had a heart4japan, and that was the fifth month. EPF still had not pay the school fees, the exams were tough, the church back home decided not to support me financially, I miss home, and I had no more money to go on. Then, the Lord supplied, in His mysterious way. More, He brought me to a church, moves heavily in prophetic worship, the pastor himself is a missionary, and they have services on Wed, Thu, Fri and Sat evening. Very much like FGA, great! There was an opening in the ministry, they need a staff. Prophetic, Worship, Missions, Services, Church Staff, most of all, DISCPLESHIP! Everything that I miss were presented before my eyes. What a blessing! I was in awe. But very quickly, He said, "You got what you wished, but it is not my will for you to work here. This is not your vineyard."

I went to Tong Fook Church the next Sunday. God grace, I thought I went there for sermon, but God brought me there to meet Joe Ozawa. He had always been an inspiration to H4J, and now we met in HK. Unbelievable!

I told him my struggle in learning Japanese, and felt I just couldn't be a "Japanese". He laughed, and he explained, "Somehow or rather, I feel the devil just do not want to give up Japan. Every people just wanted to be Japanese so much, and they became so tired, and disappointed, and gave up. You were just praying for Japan, not even there, but you already felt the same. You just need to be yourself!" Suddenly, the knots opened up one by one, I fell into the trap of the enemy! My homesick started as I found myself couldn't really expressed my inner thoughts as how a Japanese do! Then, one piled up with another, I could hardly breathe.

Gracious God! By knowing that, I was set free. Of course, then God showed me His healing power not only on me, but on many others too. I was amazed, and deeply touched by His gentle kindness. I took it one step further, knowing that was a promise from God, the prayers we have for Japan today would not just be washed down to the drain, a transformation is happening there! The cocoon is waking up.

I also received long distant calls from church, affirming me, and I knew I was not abandoned, but loved, and being blessed.

So, I went on visiting other churches as He led. But this time, not with the aim of finding myself a family, but observing closely at the place that He brought me too, and paying attention if there is anyone He wants me to meet. Today, I met someone in the church, been in Japan, loved Japan, and did a study on Hikikomori before they came back. Isn't that amazing?

I believe there are more people that He wants me to meet! He wants to bring us together, to uphold each other? to pray together? to share information? to encourage? I'm not sure... but I am excited to see His hand, joining us to form a theme!


yeah... I think so. Most people don't get to move around! If I'm back home, I wouldn't prefer to move around churches especially on Sunday. So, I become a thread that He is using, to link one another together! Wow... Amen and amen.

Shalom!


p/s: I met another friend here in HK, and she is here to pray for HK. For that, she stayed here for 3 months. So, these are the sort of people that "walk by faith". Not really knowing that 'where' and 'what', but we are sensitive to the 'time'. I was deeply encouraged, knowing that I am not the only weird one eased me a lot, ;p This is the kind of people that FGA is producing, I guess ;-) Maybe not many, but there are some.

Qualitative Research

I think what is happening in me now, that I am asking questions like "What is going on here?" to the missions field in Japan, to the culture block in Japan, to the disturbing phenomenons in Japan. And by systematically exploring to the topic or setting as a learner, holding assumptions and knowledge in "abeyance" until they are confirmed.

So, this is a value-free approach, it just that I do not allow the theory to drive my research. In research means, this is called qualitative research. I am trying to organize the data and to formulate theory through the analysis. Then, comparing the findings from the setting with established theory and the results of my own research, drawing a template of others' work over the emerging analysis, to compare the fit.

From the book "Qualitative Research Methods", the researcher asks questions constantly about the data, such as, "Is this interaction supportive? Is this social support? How does this manifestation of social support compare with the definitions in the literature? How is it different? Why?" The researcher will then expand the sample to include participants who will be able to provide the information necessary to follow interesting leads identified in the data. ....... the continual comparison of these two levels of information and the multiple decisions that have to be made ("What is right, my data or the literature?") force the qualitative researcher to constantly think about his or her project.

So, this is what I am doing, and what God had put into me, a quality of qualitative researcher!

Qualitative research: It opens a door to communications. A window to the inside world of the subject. These areas are often been relatively neglected by other researchers or to look suspiciously at areas which the researcher believes may perhaps be incorrect or in need of modification.

尋求主在我們生命的心意！

日本今年的下雪量比去年少了４０﹪。這對北部，尤其是山區應該是好事的。但是相對的，日本卻有不尋長的龍卷風。去年龍卷風的襲擊，使北海道原本已經貧困的地區雪上加霜。海嘯的消息也不斷地傳來。

我知道每個地方都有它特定的問題，每個人都有他的難處。日本的民生問題怎樣也不比中國嚴重。何止呢？北韓，印度，柬普寨，越南，緬甸，菲律賓，有哪個地方不比日本來得悲傷呢？但是，在我的心裡，不知為何，很奇怪的，日本所遭遇的一切，就好樣我的親人在遭遇災難一樣，讓我挂念，哀傷。總希望看見我的親人在天堂，可以相遇。我適才提到的地方，我都看見禾場的需要和荒涼。我不住的為他們禱告的時候，我的心就更為日本著急。我想Heart4Japan就是這樣的一種感動吧！

所以我鼓勵你們也這樣的回應神吧！開始禱告，可能神放在你心中的是教會，可能是一個民族，可能是一件功課。在不同的時後，會有不同的呼招。我相信總有一個是給萬民的。許多人沒有聽過耶穌。沒人傳，他們怎能信呢？不要擔心會浪費你的禱告和氣力。當你竭力尋求神的心意的時後，你會清楚神放在你心中的感動的！

當你心裡有這樣的一個感動的時候，你就會很清楚神給你預備的去向了。我時常被你們中間安靜事奉，又時常鼓勵我的所感動！謝謝你們噢！

願神祝福你！

We are ONE family

Korean, Chinese, Japanese. Don't we look alike? Check our history, culture, even the evidence in architecture! We are one family! Dr. Ozawa and Bro. Andrew were right, we need to come together, as one. The true revival does not happen individually, it takes all three to work together! Do not forget about North Korea too! The repentance is a key! To China, Japan is our Samaritan!

It's UNITY! If you have encouragement from being unite with Chrit, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Phil2:1-2. that all of them may be one, John 17:21 The same message to the church, is the very same message to us, we need to come as ONE! In fact, the very core message in prayers for Japan, is UNITY of workers in HIS field.

"Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. " John17:21

Mat5:23-24, Mat6:14-15

有許多未來的事情，我現在不能識透，但我知誰管著明天，我也知誰牽我手......

我不知道明天的的道路，每一天只為主活，我不借明天的太陽，因明天或許陰暗，我不要為將來憂慮，因為我信主的應許，我今天要與主同行，因他知前面如何。

每一步越走越光明，像攀登黃金階梯，每重擔越挑越輕省，每朵雲披上銀衣，在那裡陽光常普照，在那裡沒有眼淚，在美麗彩虹的盡頭，眾山嶺與天相連。

我不知道明天的道路，或遭遇生活苦楚，但那養活麻雀者，他必然也看顧我，他是我旅途的良伴，或經過水火之災，但救主必與我同在，他寶血把我遮蓋。

THIS IS MY FAMILY!

This is my family! This is the picture that He had used to encouraged me from November, till December, till January! When all the nations come and praise His name, this is where His heartbeat is, and when Japan comes in...... THEY are my family! I am in them, with them, that's where my family belongs! In the heart of worship!

FAMILY

HE had been teaching about family recently. As I was crying out for home, and a church here to grow, to feel belong. HE taught me that I am in the family. He had also put the same mind into people who I didn't know, to tell them I need a family, and asked them to show me kindness and family. I was like, oh now, family, I finally have one. But I know that there are more behind this kindness, after I was overwhelmed, and in AWE of HIM. My spirit encourgaed me to move on, to pray and seek HIS Kingdom.

Then, as I gathered my mind back from beggaring-weaning on the ground, to the roof-top as a watchman for Japan, HE gradually showed me the truth! I am in the family! And I am in HIS family, and it is not about church, a specific place! It is about HIS Kingdom, HIS body, HIS people! And that is the whole reason why HE had prompted these people to bless me, to give, to care! It is not about a certain people, or a certain ministry, or even discipleship. Not at this moment. He wants me to learn about people, to observe, and to learn about HIS heart and HIS will on these people and nations.

So, I know it is time to move on, to visit churches again, to meet people this time, not searching for home. But to freely share, to be myself, to tell people about what God is doing in my life, and to encourage people to pray, for the Unreached, for Japan! There are some people that God wants me to meet! There are some churches that God wants to spark up their spirit to begin to look beyond! I had learned that in November. :-)

Of course, HE had been teaching me some other things as well! That's why I had been silent most of the time in December. Waiting, and learning, and it was painful. I'll share with you more later! God bless!

偏远的山村

日本其实有很多环境很困苦的地方，逼着很多人为了生计而到外地去谋生。这些去外地谋生的人，因为带着乡音和乡下的习俗，在城市里往往不能被人接纳。尤其是在日本这一片大和气息浓厚的土地，一根凸出的钉子一定要被敲打下去的。

但是乡下也是在太穷了。要不就是严峻的气候，要不就是倒闭的矿业，工业的不景气造成许多的失业，基本上要是不走，很难活下去。（参考北海道和东北的祷告指南，www.operationjapan.blogspsot.com)

有很多偏远的山村，有垂死的老人，有嗷嗷待哺的小孩，有目不识丁的壮年。

求神开我们的智慧，给我们属灵的眼睛，叫我们看见他的子民的需要。如何将福音传给山村的居民呢？他们和山林为伍，山林就是他们的神。基本上，日本的山总是因为满山的鬼魅而成名的。很多乡村就因为这些仅存的怪谈、祭典和神社，一年里在一些特别的日子会恢复一点生气。如何把真正的爱和平安的信息给他们带出来？又如何在这种困难的情况下生活？对教会或者是宣教士来说，都是很大的考验！

求主的国在这里吧！复兴他的教会！复兴他的门徒！愿人能够每一天都饱尝他的爱和恩典。

Operation Japan -Chinese version ON THE GO

Finally, in the grace of Jesus Christ, we are able to get the Operation prayer guide translation "up-to-date". However, there are many more to do. I would need proof readers to correct the mistakes, and translators on day-to-day basis. The next post is hopefully to be on Jan 13th.

Please refer to www.operationjapan.blogspot.com for prayer guides that drew out by JEMA. And if you like to give us a hand in this, please do not feel hesitate to call me!

Thanks!

This is the time, more than ever!

"When the pursuit of material extravagance delivers emptiness rather
than inner contentment, a people are forced to confront deeper , more
existential questions about meaning, value, self-affirmation, and
moral purpose that classroom training alone cannot teach. " cited from
Michael Zielenziger : Shutting Out The Sun.

If the materialistic world can sense this, what about the church?
Which suppose to be more sensitive to spiritual emptiness, needs and
hunger and famine of the world? Japan is no longer an issue of some
"special person" who had a calling to the field. It is for everybody.
The revival in Asia should not exclude Japan and North Korea! In
Japan, there is 127 million lost souls that need JESUS.

What had became an global issue on Japan is that, "Japan -- now -- had
said to be a spent force. Japan's moment seems to have passed, its sun
eclipsed. " The material world paid their attention to this nation,
because it signify a shift of economic weight, a shift of the paradigm
in global politics and values, with the fierce rise of China and
India.

We are not praying for Japan's economy here. There is a time that God
needs to do what He wants to do We are not fighting with God to ask
for recover in the economy. But we do see Japan is loosing out in its
nation's passive acceptance of failure and the rising pessimism of
people. What would be Japan's future? This is the time that Japanese
need more of JESUS and the TRUTH than anytime in the history. It is
only the truth, the love of JESUS CHRIST would sustain them at this
moment of lost. Name of Jesus, the name that will comfort them, giving
them strength in this time of adjustment. Like the Israelites on their
expel to Babylon.

The God of creation had never left Japan. The sun is never any other
thing than His own creation. But it is the matter of "Had Japan
acknowledged Him. Were they given a chance to call on His name?" We
had let go of three "exclusive" chances to labour with His Spirit.
Now, are we letting it go again? We have not much time left.

Behind the Stone Walls

Cited from Michael Zielenziger, "Frustrated and disaffected, many young Japanese just abandon their homeland. Hundreds of thousands of others wander like nomads outside the rigid traditional system, refusing to work, go to school, or accept job training. Even more disturbing -- perhaps most disturbing -- is the cadre of more than one million young adults, the majority of the men, who literally shut themselves away from the sun, closing their blinds, taping shut their windows, and refusing to leave the bedroom in their homes for months or years at a time. Thus the anguish the Imperial Family discreetly confronts behind stone palace walls reflects a crisis now being visited on the wider family of Japan. "

"Frustrated and disaffected, many young Japanese just abandon their homeland. Hundreds of thousands of others wander like nomads outside the rigid traditional system, refusing to work, go to school, or accept job training." I supposed these are those who hang out in Harajuku, Shibuya and Kabuki-Cho. I am sure that there are similar people in other cities. But I would like to know are these also the kind of people that will eventually be absorbed into the Yakuza circle?

"more than one million young adults, the majority of the men, who literally shut themselves away from the sun, closing their blinds, taping shut their windows, and refusing to leave the bedroom in their homes for months or years at a time. " I believe these are the Hikikomori people that we are into much discussions these days. My professor was suggesting me to interview some of these people. Seeing an example from Michael, perhaps it is telling me that I could probably do the same here in Hong Kong.

Interestingly, Michael was using the parallel of the Imperial Family here. This will help us to develop a lot of thoughts......

Ijime and Japan

Reading about Ijime, history of churches, questions on the truth of the bible, the practice of people, I began to ask a question. Must there be a reason for all things to happen?

An ex-adolescent Ijime commented on Ijime, "School leaders refuses to talk about it with te districts because they don't want to get bad ratings. Teachers don't want to discuss it with parents because they're afraid of being accused. Classmates don't defend their friends because they're afraid of also being marginalized. It's a vicious circle. "

For the above statement, I would like to recommend you to watch this movie, "All About Lily-Chow" Lily Chu-u no subete. I think it depicts a very good scene on this.


Finally, does Ijime only happen in Japan? Is it a unique culture? Have you ever been in this situation? Please share with us.